Put your own mask on first

Written by on January 27, 2014 in BLOG - 16 Comments

Oxygen Maskoxygen-maskMy rather wonderful neighbour, Auntie M, popped round the other day to give me her shredding. She supplies our gerbils (who are SURPRISINGLY still alive) with bedding with her obliterated paper work. Auntie M is a caring straight talking soul who has a big heart. She always speaks sense, and during five minutes of chatting on my doorstep she said something that has stayed with me all week.

Because life is so busy – wife, mother, dog walker, chief laundry manager, buyer of groceries and general life putter-togetherer we often, as parents, as people, pour everything into everyone else before looking after ourselves. We often feel that looking after ourselves is almost an indulgence, selfish and something to feel guilty about.

As she was leaving Auntie M said to me ‘Put your own mask on first’.

On an airplane during the safety announcement, that we usually glaze over in a ‘heard it all before fashion’, we are told that in an emergency we have to put our own dangly oxygen mask on first before helping anyone else.

In short, I need to look after myself so I can look after my loved ones … so that I can look after them to the best of my ability. If I keep pouring everything I’ve got into everyone else there will be nothing left for me and The Yappy Dog will never leave.

Two weeks ago I wasn’t in a good place. Now I’m taking it a day at a time and making time in each day to do something that is good for the soul, my soul, something that is all mine.

Fighting off The Yappy Dog is harder than I thought, but I’ve done it before and I know I’ll get rid of the little bugger.

From now on I’m putting my own mask on first.

16 Comments on "Put your own mask on first"

  1. Serra January 30, 2014 at 9:23 am · Reply

    Hi Laura, fab blog post! So important to put yourself first every now and then, happy mum equals happy family. Sx

    • Laura - AWNTYM? February 10, 2014 at 4:01 pm · Reply

      I totally agree Serra, we just sometimes forget in our busy lives.

  2. Kate/WitWitWoo January 27, 2014 at 10:41 pm · Reply

    Dang! You’re speaking wise words lately gf! We all need to be a little ‘selfish’ sometimes x

    • Laura - AWNTYM? January 29, 2014 at 2:19 pm · Reply

      WIth my new crazy seems to come some sense … not all of the time mind. The rest of the time I am rocking back and forth dribbling.

  3. Fay bennett January 27, 2014 at 9:19 pm · Reply

    Gosh that is spot on Auntie M.Never thought of it like that.Thank you x

    • Laura - AWNTYM? January 29, 2014 at 2:15 pm · Reply

      Nor did I, now I will ALWAYS think of it like that. Big love to you over yonder x

  4. Mostly Yummy January 27, 2014 at 11:18 am · Reply

    It took me a long time to learn to do this and I still have to remind myself that it’s okay to put myself first sometimes. A very wise friend you have there Laura Chora. Sending lots of love xxx

    • Laura - AWNTYM? January 29, 2014 at 2:09 pm · Reply

      Thank you … I think we all need reminding every once in a while x

  5. English Mum January 27, 2014 at 10:57 am · Reply

    What Ellie said. We do so much and it’s amazing how while taking care of everyone else, we somehow omit the most important person – ourselves! Big hugs Mrs D xx

    • Laura - AWNTYM? January 29, 2014 at 2:08 pm · Reply

      Those hugs mean a lot … as did hearing your voice on the phone this week *blub* xx

  6. Honest Mum January 27, 2014 at 10:44 am · Reply

    Beautiful post and so wise, we need to shed the guilt and realise we need to feel strong to help others!

    • Laura - AWNTYM? January 29, 2014 at 2:07 pm · Reply

      We shouldn’t feel guilty for putting ourselves first sometimes x

  7. Eliza_Do_Lots January 27, 2014 at 10:12 am · Reply

    I’m guilty of leaving my own mask off until it’s too late; I think it’s something we all do, trying to be everything to everyone. I think she gave you great, succinct advice! One day at a time is my mantra currently!

    • Laura - AWNTYM? January 29, 2014 at 2:07 pm · Reply

      I am also taking one day at a time … which is helping x

  8. Ellie January 27, 2014 at 8:36 am · Reply

    You deserve to be kinder to yourself my lovely friend. We all do.

    Sending you gin-scented hugs from across the valley. Alway here if you need me.


    • Laura - AWNTYM? January 29, 2014 at 2:06 pm · Reply

      Loving the gin-scented hugs … and thanks xxx

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